Phases

As all of you know I'm now a grandmother & am loving every minute of it! Brylee is the sweetest baby & one of the reasons for this series of blog. I have always tried to look at both sides of things. There are two sides to every story. Some would say I look at things though Rose colored glasses. I ask, WWJD . I remember the Golden Rule. Make sure there are not three fingers pointing back at me when am pointing a finger at others. The one my Granddaddy Hodges always said, "If you can't say something nice don't say anything." Boy those words seem to come across my mind a lot lately.

Brylee loves seeing herself in mirrors. I'm not sure she realize it is her or if she thinks it's another baby. I love the happy sounds she makes while talking to her reflection. The kisses she gives the reflection.The, I want to hug you but can't seem to get my arms around you. Then she sees us in the mirror then she looks over at us like wow two of you too?? or when she sees someone walking away, then watches them in the mirror,then looks back again. What is she thinking?? At this time in life everything is good. She likes the person she sees in the mirror. Do I like the person I see? The point is the mirror has 2 reflections & so does life. When we look into the mirror what do we see? Like a couple of postings before I can see the good me & the ugly me.

So when am listening to excuses, reasons, complaint, a suggestion, I always try & I hope go with the positive/good side of it. When I need to solve a difficult problem I ask how would I feel with an answer or action like that? Why because I hope that others will do it for me. I guess in so many ways I wish people would look at things a little more positivity all the time. YES! it is hard to do daily with some of our jobs. We have someone telling us what they think we want to hear instead of what we need to be told. Or their past actions we know they are not going to be completely honest with us. It is hard. I'm around people that think of only themselves daily. Once in a while I'm put into a situation that they will ask me for my opinion on something about themselves. BOY, that is when it gets tough. Oh, how I have to chose my words SO carefully. But again I go through all my little phases I have adopted in life & think positive. Yes, there are times I wish I could just walk away. This is when I say a silent prayer and ask Jesus to help me with the answer. Some times I'm amazed at what comes out of my mouth, but I know it is not me but my prayer(s) being answered.

I hope my actions & word reflect , The Golden Rule. or WWJD. or Not have me pointing 3 fingers back at myself when I have to point a finger at someone. I hope I can shut my mouth & walk away when I I don't have anything positive or good to say. I hope that these phases that I have relied on through out my life will continue to guide me as a positive person. So I'm asking myself each day, each time I have to look within myself, which side of the mirror I'm I reflecting? The Good? or The Bad??

Making a Difference

Making a difference.......I'm a mom, wife, grandmother, daughter, etc... we all know all that. I work a full time job. (Thank You God!) I try to check in on all my family & friends as I can by a quick visit or a phone call, or Facebook. Remember I'm T-Ma & I love spending time with Brylee & Chester. I'm a mom & a wife. I also help out when I can with the Lewisville Fire Department as Petunia. Then of course there are the errands that have to be run. The chores around the house that needs to be taken care of. Do not get me wrong Bryan is right there to help! Let's not forget working in the yard. (That is the time I do a lot of talking with God. ) But as a women do you feel you just don't have enough time in the day, week, month or year to get it all done!?!?
Wrong!!! It is amazing when I'm trying to make a difference. Helping out family and/or friends. Causes or Events. Just dropping what I'm doing to sit & listen to someones concerns. GOD slows down time! I get everything done on my list or it was not that important any way. So the next time you are feeling stretched beyond your ability STOP & re- focus.Take care of your love ones & everyone around you and GOD will take care of YOU!

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

Mirror, mirror on the wall.... I do a lot of thinking in the mornings while getting dressed. It can be from planning out my day to what happened over the weekend. Many thoughts come across my mind. How many of us look into the mirror to see that we have one more wrinkle, another gray hair. Oh man I really need to get some sleep! I need to lose weight!
Do you ever reflect from there? Do you ask yourself questions like "How could I have said something to a love one a little nicer?" or "How can I make someone else's day?" Do you have a concern in life that you talk with God at that time? Sound crazy? It's not. You see when I need answers I think them through & while standing in front of a mirror I see my reactions to my answer. If it is a nice Yes,that's it! A big smile, eyes wide open you feel happy. If the answer is selfish, mean or not nice I see a frown, more wrinkles, someone very ugly. Someone that I would not like to encounter. Then my thought goes to: is this what God is seeing at this time? So of course I re-group and come up with another answer. Now it might not be at that time but I will ponder on it again either while driving to work or during the day. Why? because I did not like the person in the mirror & I don't think God did either. So remember your body language & expressions speak louder than words. Yes I sometimes just go in & get dressed, thinking of everything I should do for the day. I notice that I do a lot more reflecting on the days I get up on the wrong side of the bed. The reflection in the mirror helps me to realize that is NOT how I want to be all day. Yes I need to solve the problem or work around it but there is no need for the person in the mirror to follow me around all day because I know deep down I will hurt someones feelings. And I never want that! So remember we have control of our attitude, our behavior, Just let the reflection in the mirror help you. Just ask "do I want to be around that person?" if the answer is NO then no one else would want to be around you. I keep that in mind & decided on doing something nice for someone or something. Believe me that takes things to a whole new level! It's a win, win kind of day! If my co-workers only knew what type of day they almost had!! :)

Spending Time Together!

Bryan & I recently decided to just spend time together. After an errand we decided to go to Grapevine Mills for lunch & to see a movie. We were able to see Despicable Me in 3D. Cute movie. While we were waiting for the movie we thought we would call Jennifer & ask her to bring Brylee up for a surprise after the movie. So after another errand we met back up at the mall. The surprise was the Carousel for Brylee to have her first horsey ride. She was not really sure at first but took it all in. After she got off we decided to get an ice cream. That is where all the fun begin! Bryan & I got an soft ice cream cone. Bryan shared with Brylee & let me tell you it got MESSY!!!!! After we got Brylee & Bryan cleaned up we walked Jenn & Brylee back to the car. After doing a walk around the mall we headed to pick up Bryan's car . What a wonderful day.....we need to do it again soon.

The Greatest Show On Earth

It's Circus Time! This year we got to go to the circus as ourselves. Because the circus was holding auditions for clowns, they were not able to hold the Clown Collage. Not to worry we still had a good time. We met our friends, Jeff, Regina, Melissa & Jon there & all sit together.

We found a little place to eat.

Then Bryan, Jennifer, & Cary went Geocaching. Yes they logged a find! Actually the weather was nice for all the walking we did before we went inside.

As we went in we saw some of our friends that we have worked with before at the circus & The Red Nose Run. It was fun to see their faces when they found out we were Ashes & Petunia! We showed them the newest member of the family & I introduced her as Peanut. They said that was a perfect clown name. Since Brylee, aka: Peanut was tired & had fallen asleep, I chose to just find our seats & Bryan went to see if he could say hello to any of the clowns.

This years theme was ZING, ZANG, ZOOM! It was not as large as the circus in the past but you know it was pretty good! It reminded me of a circus of long ago. Well with all the noise, Brylee woke up to see the Elephants, dogs & horses, then back to sleep she went. Towards the end of the show she started waking up again & was able to meet one of the clowns. He did not have his wig/hat on but was still in make-up & she was cool with that. Remember Brylee has not seen us in make-up since she was days old.
So now Brylee has been to the Circus & we had another fun fill evening with friends & family!

Reflection in the Mirror!

Reflection in the Mirror!
Since I do not think I have that many followers I've decided to just write down what I'm thinking, or something that made my day go good or bad, JUST RAMBLINGS. My own self help book I mean, blog!
Yes, there will be interesting items to read from time to time. This is to help me reflect on the person I see in the mirror.
A lot of you know what part you play in this wonderful world but do you ever wonder if you are following God's plan for you? Are you doing his work?
Well let me tell you I know my name is Tressia Lynn Martin Jarvis aka: TJ. I know I'm a wife, mom, grandmother, daughter, etc.....What type of person I'm I really? I'm I someone just going through this world without meaning?Am I doing any good? You know I think sometimes I would love to have a "It's a Wonderful Life" moment.. How does my presents effect those around me?
Do I show, I Care? Do I Encourage? Am I there when someone needs me? Do I show God's love to those around me? Do you see someone nice & caring? or mean & evil? Well I hope that these rambling blogs will help me to see who I am and maybe help you with questions that you ask yourself from time to time.
So to keep you from being bored out of your mind I will try to remember to use the picture on this
posting to let you know it is just a blog of reflection.
.Mirror, Mirror on the wall..........